So much of marriage is a balancing act, isn’t it? We balance our check books, our schedules, and the demands of everyday life. It can be a lot to juggle, but we can accomplish it effectively as a team of husband and wife.
We’ve all heard the phrase, “Opposites attract.” This is often true in marriage: one spouse likes to talk, the other is quiet. One likes to plan, the other is spontaneous. One likes to be outdoors, the other likes to stay inside. There are many ways we can be different from our spouse.
During these uncertain times of the corona virus pandemic, the differences we have with our spouse can spring to the surface. One of you might want to stockpile and be prepared in case we can’t go out anymore. The other might be more focused on daily needs. One might be afraid, and the other calm.
While I’ve sometimes allowed these personality and preference differences with my spouse to get under my skin, I try to focus on the balancing act instead. I pray and thank God that He made my husband different than me. If our personalities were exactly the same, we’d be in trouble! Our marriage and our family are better because God designed us uniquely.
Over the years I’ve noticed that he’s rubbed off on me and I’ve rubbed off on him. I’m especially grateful for how we’ve balanced each other out during trials. I can look back and see how we’ve helped one another through tough times. When one of us feels weak, the other is strong. When of us loses faith, the other one believes and encourages.
As we face the unknown today and in the days to come, let’s draw closer to God and closer to our spouse. Our enemy loves to bring division, but let’s fight back with unity! Let’s use the gifts and personalities God has given us to create a beautiful balancing act in our marriage.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
-Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NIV