You may have already purchased your spouse a Christmas gift. Or maybe you’ve just started thinking about it. Either way, I have a suggestion for all of us that doesn’t cost a lot of money: living a life of love.

We often think about intentionally loving our spouse around Valentine’s Day or our wedding anniversary, but what if we decided to forgo the big purchases and big event-planning and opted to intentionally express love to our spouse on a regular basis? What if we decided to instead love through small acts of kindness and service every day?

My husband and I teach a class for newlywed couples and we were chatting about this very topic on Sunday. The group consensus was that lots of little acts of love add up much more quickly and mean more than something big just once in a while.

Ephesians 4:32-5:2 can be our inspiration:

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.”

Jesus loved all the time. Everywhere He went, people followed Him, wanting just a touch or a glance at Him in action. He gave sacrificially, ultimately giving His life. While He paid this high price, He also gave love away daily. He shared His time, power and presence to the many people who desired it. He lived a life of love all the time.

Let’s do the same. The greatest gift we can give our spouse is to show them love, not just with words, but with action, every single day.

Wishing you and yours a very Merry Christmas!


(Loving your spouse well is also a wonderful gift to give your children/future children. When children see a life of love modeled in their home, they are likely to follow in your footsteps.)