With Christmas just days away, 2019 is coming to a close. It’s hard to believe! Once Christmas has come and gone, we’ll be thinking of the new year.  

During this week between Christmas and New Year’s Day, we often spend a lot of effort thinking about the future: on resolutions or things we want to change. While I love doing that, I also believe it’s beneficial if we spend time analyzing the past year too. 

It’s the perfect opportunity to have conversation and connection with our spouse. I love using these questions:

  • What worked well?
  • What victories are there to celebrate?
  • What needs to change going forward?

We can ask ourselves these same questions regularly, not just at the new year. They apply to any new beginning, whether it’s a new day/week/month/season/year.  

I’d like to highlight the second question: What victories are there to celebrate?  

Because our lives move at record speed and new things are happening all the time, we forget to celebrate wins. We forget to honor important growth, changes or milestones that happen in our lives and marriage (other than an anniversary). Here are a few I came up with:

  • When you matured in your conflict resolution skills and learned to fight fairly and forgive quickly.
  • When you survived a house renovation.
  • Paying off your credit card.
  • When you communicated well.
  • When you planned a night out and had fun together! 

It’s important for us to celebrate both big and little victories with our spouse. We can party with cake and a night out or celebrate just by snuggling and having conversation to acknowledge something special. It makes the mundane of life and marriage more fun. God doesn’t just want our marriages to survive, He wants them to thrive. Celebrating victories is one way we can do that. 

I’d love to know: what victories do you and your spouse have to celebrate from 2019? 

Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!