I’m a loud liver.

Steven Curtis Chapman once told me to “La la la la live out loud,” but I don’t think he meant for me to live a “loud life,” so to speak.

And yes, while God wants us to be demonstrative in our faith, he generally doesn’t want us to be “loud” about it.

But I like to be loud.

I’m one of those guys that has had to learn the hard way that I’m more effective behind the scenes. I can solve the problem. I can do the job. But I have a hard time talking about the job’s details or discussing the problem’s solution without getting tongue-tied and mixing up words.

But living nonchalantly? That’s been a huge challenge.

As much as I love helping people, encouraging them, and giving them hope, I have a streak in me that longs for the passion and excitement of adrenaline rushes. This “loud” streak likes to make it known that I’m doing something amazing.

And so do you. “Quiet” living doesn’t always seem to satisfy us, does it?

Lately, I’ve been noticing this loud behavior in my life; I want to make it big, turn my career around, “become” the person I’m meant to be. In short, I’ve been trying to find a way to make my life big.

And I’m starting to notice that making small things bigger usually leads to a lot of pressure. Deadlines. Expectations. Drama.

“But we urge you, brothers… to aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we instructed you, so that you may walk properly before outsiders and be dependent on no one.” – 1 Thessalonians 4:10-12

I’m starting to want a more quiet life. I want to simplify. To unclutter and uncomplicate.

I try to break my life into areas He doesn’t have planned for me all the time. I reach for something God knows I’m not ready for. I have to keep in mind that I can do nothing except through Christ who strengthens me.

And when the right opportunity comes along, God will grant the peace and power to accomplish it with His excellence, and His proficiency.

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28

Why would I expect marriage to be any different? If I can subtly love my spouse, sacrifice without bragging, and humbly accept the set of circumstances within which God has placed me, then He’ll grow my marriage in the way He wants. He’ll provide the power that I need to stay committed.

And that power is something we can all tap into.

Love, the RYM Team