Prayer is one of the most effective spiritual tools we can use in our daily lives. Yet we sometimes forget to tap into it.

When I was a new bride, someone gifted me The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. It helped me to realize a few things:

  • It isn’t our job to change our spouse: As a wife, my job is to be his helper, it’s God’s job to change and grow my husband. And vice versa. Doesn’t that help take the pressure off? I can love and support my husband and stop trying to be his Holy Spirit.
  • Regularly praying for our spouse is such a gift: Going to God in prayer for our spouse shows our love, support and commitment to them, even if they don’t know we’re doing it.  I also think prayer helps us to love and support them more in day-to-day life. When we’re praying and thanking God for our spouse, we can feel more connected to them as a result.
  • Praying changes me: The more time I spend praying, the more connected I am to God. Praying opens our hearts and minds to what He wants to say and do in us and through us. The more we pray, the more we’ll grow.

Praying for our spouse can be simple, it doesn’t have to be formal or intimidating. Here are a few easy suggestions that can help you pray for your spouse regularly:

  • If you go to bed later than your spouse or get up earlier, pray over him/her while they’re sleeping or lying in bed.
  • Pick a Scripture to pray for your spouse: I recommend Psalm 20. I wrote it out by hand on a piece of paper and gave it to my husband to hang up at work.
  • If you know your spouse has a big work meeting, a trip or special event, put a calendar reminder or alarm on your phone to pray for him/her.
  • Pick specific days to pray over specific areas: Decide what works for you, but a few areas to consider are spiritual life, physical health, mental health, marriage, parenting, friendship, work, etc.
  • Ask for requests: Sometimes we think we know everything about our spouse, but there may be things he/she doesn’t open up about. Asking how you can pray for your spouse can open doors to greater intimacy.

I’d also love to hear about your ideas for praying for your spouse. Leave a comment below.