Have you ever wished you could trade places with someone, to see what life would be like through their eyes?
Movies like “Freaky Friday,” where a mother and daughter switch places, are fun to watch. We see the characters struggle through, make realizations about how the other person doesn’t necessarily have it as easy as the other thought, and they walk away with renewed perspective and respect for each other.
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to trade places with your spouse—to see what it’s like to be married to you? I think we’d definitely walk away with some moments of pride when we see ourselves doing something right. But we’d likely also walk away having seen some of our no-so-wonderful moments when we lose our cool or don’t respond gently.
Would you like to know an easy exercise to do that can help give you perspective on what it’s like to be married to you? (I heard about it from someone else years ago, but don’t remember who to give proper credit. I’m so thankful to have heard it.)
It’s 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV:
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
Everywhere you see the word “love” or “it,” replace it with your name instead. Are there any statements that don’t line up with how you treat your spouse?
These verses are so counter to our culture, which makes love all about feelings and about what you can get instead of what you can give. God’s Word leads us to lasting love, not convenience or trends. True love is costly and requires that we put others ahead of ourselves.
This is a great exercise for us to get in the habit of doing regularly. Using God’s Word as our mirror helps us identify areas we can work on and provides us with inspiration on how to love our spouse with a godly love that will last.